I'm also wrestling with a tug I've been having in my heart to return to my faith. Wresting because it's in direct conflict with how my husband and I had originally agreed to raise our children. Now we stand looking at life from different points of view and it is very difficult to say the least. I don't know what will happen but I can't ignore the once quiet voice in my head that has grown into a roar. I'm on a journey.
So it feels very much like I'm at a crossroads. With this blog. With my faith. With my life in general. Here's to choosing the right path.
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27 comments:
Sounds like life has been crazy for you lately. If you ever need a sounding board I'm here. Issues of faith can be astonishingly hard and ridiculously easy at different moments in life. Hugs.
I hope everything works out the best for you, sounds like a tough situation for sure. Sometimes life throws hurdles just to keep us on our toes and to remind us of how fortunate we are. Keep your head up!
Hi Cara
You've sure been busy! I feel like I am at a similar place as you with regards to faith. My husband and I were both brought up Catholic but we both gave up church long before we met each other. Somehow having children has changed it all for me as I feel like they are now missing out on something (especially the last few weeks with Xmas since all they know is Xmas trees, presents and Santa). At least my husband has said that he'd be happy for me to introduce the kids to a faith, although he may not be there in 'faith' he would be there in person. My problem is do I really want to return to the Catholic church or not? I feel like I don't believe in some of their teachings. So that is my crossroads. I'd be interested to know how you get on, likewise I'll let you know where I get to.
dxx
I believe something in us craves faith. Even if we come back to it later in life.... I believe our children crave it too...
I'm a grandmom of two boys who are being raised without any religious influence. I think kids need some sort of religious background - it gives them a moral compass they can refer back to all through their lives. When they become old enough to decide for themselves, they can take it or leave it. Yes, you can say you are going to do things when you have kids but it changes once you have them!If you aren't happy with the faith you grew up with find another church. There are many nondemoninational ones out there that are excellent.
Good luck resolving the conflict in faith. That came to a head in its own way for us this month, too. While my husband and I still basically agree, I thought we could go about it in one way, and he thought another. Unfortunately for me, I think this last month proved that he was more right than me. Le sigh.
Thinking of you! Hope you can work it through in a constructive way, which is totally easier said than done when something like this has so much emotional weight.
follow your heart...faith is strong
Good luck, Cara. I've had the faith struggle on and off myself. My problem is that I was raised Catholic, but I don't think Catholicism is for me. But I am feeling the need for SOMETHING, especially for the kids' sake—just not quite sure what. It's tough. Hope 2012 treats you well. : )
thanks for your honesty and openness. stick in there girl. i have found in the hardest times faith and hope appear greatest :)
hugs :)
Good luck in your decisions. I love the term "crossroads." I think that clearly describes how I've been feeling about some different issues in my life. At point in life, we all come to these crossroads. Decisions can be so difficult. Thinking of you.
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There may be no one "right road" to choose. I'm confident that you and Ted will figure out how to navigate the journey together in a way that works for both of you and your children.
And selfishly, I hope there's always somehow time in your life for a little more blogging. I have really enjoyed reading your blog and watching your children grow.
So sweet to follow your blog and see bits of your life -- someone else who is a mom, who works, who sews and who puts her family first :) It's a tough balance!
I personally couldn't get through life without my faith and belief in Jesus Christ. He is my hope, my purpose, my Savior. I hope the tug on your heart pulls you up and pulls you all together. May God's peace and truth speak clearly to you these days.
It is a journey...and an interesting one. Sometimes the best thing to do is to continue doing things the way you do until it doesn't work anymore.
Angie
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Wishing the best for you and your family. Follow your heart!
Sounds like things have been very hectic and I definitely hear you with the faith thing. I was raised in a very religious household and then I reached a crossroad 5 or so years ago and I feel as though I am reaching another. It's never easy but I hope you and your husband find a way through this together. Much hugs to you.
me, too ... at a crossroads, i mean ... or maybe a fork in the road...
Faith is important to all of us, adult and child. It helps us with many of life's lessons, it helps us all be the best we can be, it helps us to love and to be loved, it helps us and guides us through the tough times as well as the good times.
Wishing you the best during this time.
Wow - that can be a hard struggle. My hubs and I have lots of disagreements about our faith. Even though we both went into it wanting the same things, we've both changed and sometimes it has been SO hard to deal with and try to figure out. But right now we are in a good place together and we've figured out how to work with the differences. I'll keep you in my prayers :) And I'll give you 1 little piece of advice: pray about it. It will help. It has helped me.
Cara,
Man- being a grown-up, especially with the responsibility of raising future grown-ups, is not for sissies, is it? Bless you as you continue to find and know the right path to take. I will echo a few of the comments already - I know that prayer works.
Sending love and best wishes your way. I'm so glad I had the chance to meet you in real life this year. Hope we get to do it again sometime!
Amy
Funny how faith has a way of coming back around? Wally and I have the faith discussion almost weekly. While we were both raised catholic, I believe it a lot more than he does these days... he happened to have married an opinionated theology nerd. Either way, I think God has a way for each of us. I hope you find your path easily.
Cara, hoping you have a quiet moment to reflect and assess your crossroads objectively. I know the kind of situation you're in, and my only real advice is: trust your gut, and don't burn more bridges than you need to. Wish you the best outcome.
Oh, Cara. Feeling for you. Know that I'm always here if you need anything.
Juli Ann
Hi Cara, I've only recently started reading your blog so perhaps the other commenters know more about your background than I do...I found it interesting that commenters assumed (or maybe they knew?) that you were speaking of faith in terms of having a different Christian denomination than your husband (or your husband being non-religious). My immediate assumption was that you and your spouse are interfaith. That likely just speaks to the fact that many of my friends are in interfaith marriages (usually Jewish and Christain or non-religious). Whatever the case, religion is definitely a challenging issue, especially after kids. Our relationship with faith changes as we change...I certainly find myself wanting to present a unified front with my husband to our child. We are both Jewish, but even so, our practices were quite different before we married! Wishing you the best of luck on your journey.
Oooh, sounds like a crossroads for sure! Funny how God keeps hounding us. ;0) My husband and I are both Catholic, and it is nice to be on the same page. I can imagine how hard it would be to disagree. I don't know what your faith background before was or what you are considering, but please free to ask if you have any questions about raising your kids Catholic or Christian. I will say a little prayer for you both.
I saw this the first day you posted it, and have been thinking about it ever since. As others have said, the best advice anyone has ever given me is: I think you should pray about it. You have a Heavenly Father who loves you, and your husband, and your kids, and who has promised help and guide you if you ask for it. “If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him” (James 1:5)
Thank you for being so honest and open, and I sincerely hope that you are brought to a solution that makes your whole family happy.
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